In Texas, we're taught to be tough. We work hard, take care of our families, and keep moving forward no matter what life throws our way. Those are qualities worth being proud of, but sometimes that toughness can make it difficult to admit when we're struggling.
The reality is that men are far less likely to seek help for depression, anxiety, PTSD, or other mental health challenges. Nationally, men account for nearly 80% of suicide deaths. That's a statistic that should make every one of us stop and think.
Mental Health Doesn't Always Look Like What You Expect
Recently, I wrote about PTSD and how it affects veterans, first responders, and others who have experienced trauma. One thing that stood out to me is that mental health struggles don't always look the way people think they do.
Sometimes it's not sadness. Sometimes it's anger. Isolation. Working too much. Drinking more than usual. Pulling away from friends and family. Losing interest in hobbies. Or simply shutting down.
Too often, those signs get written off as stress, burnout, or someone just having a bad week.
You Never Know What Someone Is Carrying
Whether it's a veteran, a first responder, an oilfield worker, a rancher, a truck driver, or the guy sitting next to you at lunch, you never truly know what someone else is dealing with behind closed doors.
People can look perfectly fine on the outside while fighting battles nobody else can see. That's why checking in matters. A simple text. A phone call. A conversation over coffee. Sometimes just asking, "How are you really doing?" can mean more than you realize.
If there's one thing I'd hope people take away from this, it's this: be kind. Be patient. Check on your friends. And don't be afraid to ask for help yourself.
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Need Help Now?
If you or someone you know is struggling, help is available.
- Call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
- Veterans can call 988 and press 1 to reach the Veterans Crisis Line.
- Visit the National Alliance on Mental Illness Texas for support groups, education, and mental health resources.
- Learn more about veteran mental health resources through the Texas Veterans Commission.
No matter what you're facing, you don't have to face it alone.
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